Stop Anger

Anger is something that each one of us has experienced. Some of us only occasionally, some almost daily. Can we eliminate all anger?  Probably not.

                We will always have expectations, and those expectations will often be unmet. Disappointment is the principle cause of anger. When we are disappointed, we look for someone to blame. Declaring someone to be at fault is the nature of anger. Anger is always directed at someone.

                Someone has just done something really awful and you are angry at them. What now?

                Here are seven secrets to stop anger before it stops you:

1. It may not immediately occur to you that you are angry. You know that you have been wronged, and you can see everyone around you rake a step back, but especially if you are really angry, it may take a while to gain the clarity to acknowledge your anger. Anger clouds perception and thinking, so make a special effort to spot it early and put it into words, "I am angry".

2. Concentrate on taking slow deep breaths. Sometimes this is all it takes to break out of anger and gain clarity on the issue. At other times breathing deeply is just a beginning, but it paves the way for the rest of the secrets.

3. Get clears what you are angry about and who you are angry at. Talk to yourself, "I am angry at him/her because s/he..........." Don't let your anger expand onto innocent bystanders, especially those trying to help calm you down. Don't refocus your anger onto everything that someone has ever done or failed to do.

4. Anger is an expression of frustration and helplessness. Remember that you always have optins-you can design your own life.

5. There is a silver lining to every disappointment. Your boss fired you and you are furious. Probably it was a blessing. Now you have the opportunity to get a better job that you really enjoy.

6. Angry and happy don't mix. Flush out the angry, and the happy has a place to put down roots. Forgive everyone for everything in order to give anger and resentment a chance to fade. Forgive and you can become happy.

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